Do you have to be a dick to be successful?
This is a very valid question.
Right now, think of some of the top, innovative and successful leaders. Do they fit this profile?
Steve Jobs is the first to come to mind for sure. But the list can be countless and many of your experiences may generate your own list.
Rather than me going through a full dissertation of this, I want to share this mini-documentary that sums it up so very well! Max Joseph does a brilliant job unpacking this subject with great research, interviews, etc..
My On-going Struggle
This is always a struggle for me. I have encountered my own share of people like this and I have always thought that there has to be a better way to lead. I have been told that I am “too nice” which I find to be complete Bu!lS#(%. However, I feel that most of our problems stem from the behaviors of everyone. I guess that all too often, I carry more hope in people than others think I should. Maybe that is their own pain coming through.
My synopsis on this subject is that I don’t believe that leaders have to be dicks, but those under their leadership cause it to happen.
How do I know this?
I have kids. I ask them to do their chores and get their stuff done, however, many times they don’t really get after it until I have a blow up.
Team members can often lack their own initiative until there is a stern reaction to their lack of drive. If we all took the initiative then we’d crush it and people wouldn’t have to use “vinegar” to get the job done.
Those who explode, don’t really want to (in my opinion) but they are either guided with the need to or the want to be seen as not a push over. There are a lot of internal and external forces taking place. Mix in everyones background and that impacts how they live out their leadership style they’ve learned. It is a hodgepodge of personalities that are often trying to survive and do a great job.
At the end of this documentary, I think it gives a great view point. But I won’t unpack it here. Go watch Max’s video. It is worth your 34 minutes. Definitely more worth time spent there vs. in other mindless behavior!
What do you think?
Is this valid?
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